What Love Looks Like
Posted by Pauline
It doesn’t seem like it could be six years already. And yet it feels like forever since I heard him call me “honey,” touched his skin, felt his body close to mine, and smelled his scent as I nuzzled my nose into his beard.
It’s true what they say — your life changes forever once you lose someone you love that much. Certainly my life and my son Davis’s changed forever on April 18, 2009. But I’m sure Davis would agree with me — our lives didn’t change in a negative, feeling resentful, why-did-this-happen-to-me kind of way.
Sure, it’s taken time for us to heal. To move through the tough, painful feelings and come out the other side. To begin to recognize the blessings in the pain. You realize you’ve grown and matured in ways you couldn’t have otherwise. You realize this is your path.
When Davis and I talk about losing David, we agree. We’ve made choices and gone in directions neither of us would have if David were still alive.
That’s not to say that we would have chosen this — to live our lives without this generous, loving man beside us, supporting us. But here’s what we do choose — we choose to live full lives without him.
David is the reason why I came to El Paso. With his passing, I wanted to know what else was in store for my life. I started to seek what that might be. And I had the freedom to go find it.
But it’s much more than that. It’s about what David taught me for the 28+ years he was in my life.
He taught me how to love.
Through our relationship I learned what unconditional love might look like. He was the closet thing to it that I’d ever experienced. And that’s what gave me the courage and the willingness to open my heart to strangers. To be vulnerable in places where I’d previously been so protective. To be willing to trust.
Little by little I’ve been learning this lesson. I’m sure it’s a lifelong lesson.
But today, on this anniversary, I wanted to acknowledge this:
About PaulineI've been a freelance writer and editor for many years and I'm seeking to follow my heart in this stage of my journey, as the major roles in my life as wife and mother have changed. Not sure where this will lead, but I'm taking one step at a time as I listen within.
Posted on April 18, 2015, in Inspiration, Living from the heart, transformation and tagged beginning again, death of loved one, dying, faith, grace, grief and growth, living fully, spirituality, spousal love, taking risks, the face of love, unconditional love. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.